Recently, a discussion with a close female friend slowly meandered its way to the subject of being cherished. (It’s an old fashioned word which evokes images of gentleness, honour, respect, courtesy, knights in shining armour and scented climbing roses.) She has had a relationship with her husband for more than fifteen years and is blooming. Whenever she speaks about him, she glows and her voice changes slightly. How rare and precious.
Our discussion arose as my friend had noted similar responses occurring in me. I needed to say nothing; the evidence of being cherished radiated from me – and continues to do so. I have never been cherished before, so I am still adjusting to the wonderful warmth of it. Being cherished means that one is cared for completely, respected thoroughly, thought of lovingly and treated with disarming dignity. The difference which it has made to my life is a source of joy and astonishment to me.
Being cherished validates one’s identity, choices and existence. It results in one walking a little taller, holding one’s head a little higher and smiling – a great deal. It also results, inevitably, in reciprocity.
The peculiarity is that up and down the land, since time immemorial, couples have been vowing to cherish each other as part of their marriage vows. Yet, it is a vow rarely kept and an opportunity sadly missed.
Change your circumstances by cherishing and being cherished. Your life will never be the same again.
Don’t just take my word for it; try it for yourself.
