London O, London.

Last night and this morning the complete, the total, the wanton destruction of my manor flashed before my eyes.  Nationally downplayed, due to its Olympic Host Borough status, but real, extensive and irreparable damage occurred nonetheless.  Already ailing and wounded businesses attacked, perhaps mortally wounded.  My jeweller’s shop vandalised, ransacked, looted.  Bank and retailers all falling victim to the carnage displayed before us.  This precious, cherished space desecrated by burning buses, looting teenagers and abject moral poverty.  How have we allowed this to happen – on our watch, in our land?  How will we avert further madness and mayhem when there are already too few police and many jobs are going to be cut?

Regardless of where we live, who we are, what we think – these are OUR children.  These angry, aimless, anarchistic beings are our offspring, our future, our heirs.  What have we done (or not done) to allow these the destructive, the vengeful and the lost to commandeer our streets, destroy the work of generation and further impoverish our recession-struck homeland?  What have we done?  Where have we been?

Why didn’t we notice that our children were marching to a very different drum beat from our own?  Why didn’t we see and stop the disaffection displayed in small things?  Why didn’t we heed their speeches and realise that “hope” was a word completely expunged from their vocabulary?

It all has so little to do with the manslaughter of Mr Duggan; yet, it has everything to do with it.  The underlying issues and problems are the same.  Where is the communication – the two way conversation to which each person contributes?  Where is the embedded and deeply ingrained sense of respect, value and inclusion?  Where is the commitment to harmonious, positive, co-dependent living?

We spend hours and millions abolishing childhood, propelling our children from the cot to the catwalk from the nursery to the nightclub, from diapers to disillusionment (with as few stops as possible in between) and then question their lack of responsibility, their earth-shattering immaturity and their all-consuming selfishness.  We all know that the most highly prized plants grow slowly and steadily.  It is the wild flowers and weeds which rush to maturity; invading, disturbing and potentially creating chaos in well-ordered and well-managed surroundings.  For best results, we tackle weeds when young – before they ever have an opportunity to multiply – and consistently monitor and nurture our growing spaces.

So, where have we been?  What have we been doing?  How have we missed the signs?  We know how to cultivate and care.  We know the rules and we have the resources.  This is an alarm call for all of us; our country, our communities and our children – especially the feral ones – require our immediate care, concern and intervention.

Catching Up

Perhaps I should feel ashamed as I admit it (I don’t!), but friends, I am STILL unpacking.  Five months of living with boxes and I think that there are only 2 left to organise or relegate to the cellar.  A wonderful opportunity has arisen as I have, through gritted teeth, unleashed the last bits and pieces.  Cards, documents and gifts have brought the giver to mind and prompted me to pick up the telephone – with fantastic results.

A decade later and I have reconnected with a chum who was truly a kindred spirit when our eldest children were toddling and teething.  I still recall, with horrified laughter, the moment when my year old darling vomited over one of her Persian carpets.  I couldn’t even offer to have it dry cleaned, because I knew I couldn’t afford it!  Chatting to another pal gave me the opportunity, perhaps for the first time, to mention just how impressive his dedication to his career and his family has been.  (Hindsight is 20:20 and if I’d known then what I know now… but that’s a completely different tale!)

So, boxes diminishing and I have been inspired to look above the parapet for a brief moment.  The peek was enough to result in enrolment on an evening class – pottery.  Watch this space for hilarious tales beginning in September.  Hopefully, I will manage to make some friends, amidst the clay.

The theme for today: use every opportunity to reach out to friends old and new.  Otherwise, you may never ever know just how rewarding the experience could be.

The Library

Blessed with eight guests (all treasured members of our urban family) last weekend, one wondered what they would make of our home/building site.  What will most interest, fascinate, concern, inspire and intrigue is always the question on our lips when we show others our space?

The size of the garden brought “Aahs!”, the verandah generated “Oooohs!”, the cellars elicited “Ummhs” and “Oh dears!”, but the library was universally acclaimed.  The library, one of the most labour intensive rooms in the house in terms of time spent decorating, is also one of our favourite destinations.

Thanks again to inspiration gleaned from the wonderful Jocasta Innes, the library is actually a first floor cloakroom!  The ceiling is tented and completed by a capiz shell lightshade, gives the impression of an exotic retreat.  The walls are a collage of pages of books, with complete copies of the books displayed on a shelf in a nook.  Informative and enlightening, pages are from texts including a thesaurus, Sidney Poitier’s autobiography, crossword puzzles, a health and food encyclopaedia, gardening journals and wordsearches.  All have been carefully applied to the walls and finished with several coats of clear matt varnish.

Originally, the intention was that the walls would be interactive, complete with whiteboard markers for global participation.  However, three torturous days of punishing labour later and the walls assumed a value far in excess of any carefully placed antique!  Interaction has been reduced to completion of puzzles etc… in books from the nook and avid reading and discussion of new vocabulary and information gleaned.

The library is the culmination of several points on my “things to do before I die” list.  I was thrilled to cross them all off – particularly, when they rendered such positive results.

So, do you have one of those lists and are you working your way down it?  Or, do you think that you are immortal?!